50 Reasons My Son Needs His Dad

The Generations

From left to right: Jonathan {Daddy}, David {Son}, Pepe {Great Grandfather}, Don {Grandfather}

I've been thinking lately how truly blessed I am to not only have an amazing husband but that he is also a great father. Today, family's are defined differently and separate from the Word of God. Some young men feel they can do as they please without worrying about consequences or their responsibility. I personally have witnessed loved ones get wrapped up in some charming guy's arms, get pregnant and then dumped like yesterday's dirty diapers. This is not how God intended the family unit to begin. And that is not what those beautiful ladies deserve.

The neglected young woman then has to try and play both mother AND father, while also struggling to figure out who she is all the while working a full time job and even sometimes continuing her education. I'm not here to boast. I am not here to "rub it in you face." I am here to say that Jesus loves you and sees you. Hold on, it will get better!

It is too easy for me to sit in my comfortable home and complain about things that some other ladies dream about. It becomes normal, to have a man that actually WANTS to be there for his wife and son. I become selfish and caught up in my blessings. It is in these moments that I need to step back and analyze what God has given me. A beautiful life and a wonderful opportunity. To have the opportunity to raise a son with moral standards and honest intentions. We {my husband and I} are a team and can teach our son to respect a woman's heart and body.

As a mother, it is easy to see what my son needs from me. To be nurtured. To be fed. To be a godly example of a wife/mother. But as much as my son needs me, I feel he needs daddy more! As I pondered why, these reasons popped into my mind. I then showed my husband and he was pleased. Feel free to share and comment if you are led to. I hope this encourages your heart and uplifts your spirit.

1.  He needs dad to bond with
2. He needs dad to play
3. He needs dad to teach him how to fix things
4. He needs dad to make mud pies with
5. He needs dad to help him develop his personality
6. He needs dad to teach him how to DO things
7. He needs dad to teach him to think
8. He needs dad to help him grow
9. He needs dad to share laughs
10. He needs dad to teach him bowling
11. He needs dad to teach him to take chances
12. He needs dad to learn to tackle his fears
13. He needs dad to encourage taking risks
14. He needs dad's life experiences
15. He needs dad to run with
16. He needs dad jump with
17. He needs dad to explore with
18. He needs dad to listen when he's hurting
19. He needs dad to speak to his heart
20. He needs dad to cry with
21. He needs dad to teach him good work ethics
22. He needs dad to learn that men make mistake too, and it's okay
23. He needs dad to know he isn't alone
24. He needs dad as a buddy
25. He needs dad to share goals and dreams with
26. He needs dad's practical approach
27. He needs dad to dig with
28. He needs dad to fish with {though mommy will happily be there :)}
29. He needs dad to go on trips with
30. He needs dad to make memories with him
31. He needs dad to teach him the value of money
32. He needs dad to make mom crazy{er}
33. He needs dad to encourage him
34. He needs dad to lean on
35. He needs dad to swim with
36. He needs dad to go on the boat with
37. He needs dad to have awesome summers
38. He needs dad to teach him wiffleball
39. He needs dad to love life with
40. He needs dad to believe in him
41. He needs dad to climb trees with him
42. He needs dad to be on his side
43. He needs dad to cheer him on
44. He needs dad to say he is proud of him
45. He needs dad to go hiking with
46. He needs dad to show him true integrity
47. He needs dad to answer his questions
48. He needs dad to teach him how to drive
49. He needs dad to feel secure
50. He needs dad to see that not all men are the same  

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Dear David...{Boys Have Hearts Too: Letter 6}

Dear David...

Wow, my boy, time is sure flying by. The last time I wrote a letter to you was back in August. Now you are just about one month away from being a year old. What?! Man you make my life complete.

I am going to try and not take so long in between letters next time because there is SO much momma wants you to know. A lot of pressing issues are on my heart and I want to connect with yours. That's right, David. Boys have hearts too. No matter what any macho-man-wannabe, thick headed muscle man tells you...listen to me. Guys are just as sensitive compared to those yucky girls.

Believe it. I'm sharing with you a secret that mankind has been sweeping under the rug since the first caveman wrestled a T-Rex to save his darling. He probably acted all tough up front, but on the inside he was screaming like a little girl getting hit in the head during a came of PE dodge ball. You see, son, it is inside of a man to want to protect. You were made with that instinct to provide security. As you grow older, you will understand this more.

Part of having that instinct to protect is a responsibility that can leave a heavy weight on some men's shoulders. And some of them like to act as if they are okay when really they are scared inside. Frightened. Shaken by the amount of stuff on their big tough guy plates. but society has taught them to be quiet and put on a brave face. Crying is for girls and as a guy, you shouldn't even have tear ducts!

I'm telling you right now that crying is for all humans. Not only that, it's okay to be sensitive to other people's needs. Daddy may not tell you this, but he is very sensitive. If you don't believe me, ask him about the video of Dalmatian puppies eating peanut butter for the first time. This doesn't make him "less of a man", son. He has plenty of samurai swords hidden around the house just in case he needs to protect us with his killer skills.
We are all sensitive and that's how it's meant to be. It means that God has made you in His image, which He surely did! Isn't God's heart sensitive? Doesn't He care about other people, and not only that, doesn't He express His feelings?

I'm not trying to turn you into a whiny, mushy advice columnist. But if that's who you turn out to be, that's who you will be. All I'm saying is this...boys have hearts too and for a purpose. Use your sensitive heart to turn to God, to mirror His ways and to accomplish the calling He has given you. Use your heart to help the least of these and to build up your family. Being a sensitive boy doesn't make you any less "macho." It actually makes you more of a man for not hiding what is naturally within you.

Love Always,
Mom

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